I recently read your post about self-respect not correlating to how many sexual partners you have, sadly I disagree. If you don't respect yourself then chances are you don't have high self-regard or strength to stand up to what you feel is right for your body. Therefore, people use your passiveness to take advantage of what they think is best for your body. It may not be a direct correlation that self-respect leads to more sexual partners, but it definitely can be a factor.
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3mily94
If you don’t respect yourself then chances are you don’t have high self-regard or strength to stand up to what you feel is right for your body.
And what if having safe, fun, consensual sex is right for your body?
Therefore, people use your passiveness to take advantage of what they think is best for your body.
funny you see sex as something where people are being taken advantage of. Sex- true sex- is about consensual sexual contact. If someone is being coerced or doesn’t want to participate in sexual activity, then that is sexual violence.
It may not be a direct correlation that self-respect leads to more sexual partners, but it definitely can be a factor.
I am not sure what you mean about this. Having self-respect is about loving yourself and not shaming yourself (or others!). Self-respect can have a factor in how many sexual partners in the sense that if you are comfortable with yourself and don’t buy into really shitty, untrue lies that any girl that “puts out” doesn’t have self-respect you will have just as many (or few!) sexual partners as you please.
We need to get away from the narrative that more sexual partners are bad or that self-respect is connected to sexual violence (because people don’t choose to be victims; people choose to be perpetrators). Sex is great, awesome thing and everyone should be allowed to have as much sex as they want with as many people as they want as long as they’re doing it because they *truly* want to.
